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LITTLE HISTORY LESSON (fLaShBaCk):

Melanie and Willow are best friends. Melanie is going out with Izaak (tall, handsome, incredibly smart and artistic, kind, funny, musically apt) and Willow is going out with Tyler (tall, quiet, shy, snarky, used to be Izaak's best friend). Willow has been going out with Tyler for nearly three months; Izaak and Melanie have been going out for well over a month.

Then Willow gets a little ballsy and starts talking to Izaak. Every. Single. Night. They chat all the time on AIM, and, soon before Spring Break, Willow starts talking more and more about Izaak and more and more about how her relationship with Tyler is less than stellar.

Then, out of the blue, Willow and Tyler break up. The VERY NEXT DAY Izaak ends it with Melanie.

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Aaaand now back to the present.

Melanie was devestated by her breakup; Willow, not so much. But the day after she and Tyler broke up, she started going around telling all of her friends that she was falling for Izaak (at which point he and Mel were still a couple).

Over Spring Break, one of Izaak's friends let it slip that he was planning on asking Willow out...as SOON as we got back to school. No downtime needed between girlfriends. Typical guy, right?

Willow asked Melanie if she was okay with it. And what was Melanie to say? "No! I'm still holding on to the slim chance that he might want me back, so I'm going to ask you to withhold your happiness?" Melanie wouldn't do that to "Willz."

So, today, Izaak did the deed. After school, he pulled Willow away, and they came back holding hands.

If Willow had seen the look on Melanie's face, she probably would have reconsidered everything.

Now, both of these girls are very good friends of mine. And yes, they are inclined to drama. But I love 'em all the same. So, what's my perspective on all of this?




I think Willow's wrong for agreeing.

Anyone with eyes can see, even though she say's she's fine and she pretends not to care, that Melanie is friggin' HURT. And Willow doesn't even seem to care. She knows that Melanie's bugged by it, and I advised her that saying yes to Izaak was going to make things very awkward for Melanie and Izaak both.

She didn't care.

I HATE girls that trample their friends in their "pursuit of a perfect relationship." Because, really, how long do eighth-grade couples typically last? MAYBE a month. That's probably around the average, and that's actually probably a high estimate. Friendships last so much longer than that, and even if the couple in question break up, it still drives a wedge in between them.


I'm not resentful of Willow. I don't think Melanie is, either. But it definitely does make me question her character. I saw one of Melanie's songs, in which she describes Willow "stealing her fairytale." And I have to agree. Willow should've kept her nose in HER business and left Izaak alone, because she really did start to pursue him while he was still technically with Melanie. I don't care what she says; she was flirting HARDCORE with that boy. She has a tendency to think she's subtle, when a blinking neon sign couldn't be more obvious at times.


Now, it probably sounds like I think this is OMGBIGNEWS! But this entire situation just makes me sad. Honestly, what's the point? So Izaak and Willow can be in "tru wuv?" At what cost?

Losing a friend is a pretty harsh price to pay for a fleeting "relationship" if you ask me.


Oh, and don't even get me started on the whole "'relationships' as thirteen and fourteen year olds" thing. I think that holding hands, a little kiss here and there, hanging out on the weekends, is about the extent of "relationships" at my age. And that's fine, you know? But when girls start talking about how they're in "LOVE!".... It's like, "no, you're not... you're infatuated, maybe even borderline obsessed, but you're not in love."

But, that's just my opinion. Don't like it? Not my problem. Got something to say? Leave a comment.